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2017:
Be Calm. Stay Centered.

© 2017 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

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“I have a calm mind. I have an open heart. I know my truth.”

Welcome to 2017 – our new year. We are living in turbulent times. The pace of life is fast, and we need ways to adjust. While some changes are welcome, others are not.

It is wise to cultivate personal practices to help stay centered and grounded. Being centered, calm and clear helps when it comes time to handle the challenges that life brings.

You create your life from the center of your being. When you are not centered, feeling fragile, you can be prone to being thrown off-kilter or blown sideways by the opinions and actions of others.

We are living in strange times called ‘Post-truth’ in which ‘fake news’ abounds, especially on the Internet. We need to check sources of information and dismiss what is not true.

Remember that love trumps fear and hate.

David Suzuki recently said:

“We mustn’t let fear and despair stop us from making the world a better place for everyone. It’s time to stand together …. ”

Here are some suggestions:

1. Hold fast to what you know to be true. Know your own truth and values and stand by them. If something does not feel good and right to you, then you should not automatically accept it as true.

2. Find healthy ways to channel frustration. For some, this means getting active in your community. For others, political action will be the chosen route. I was so inspired to see many thousands of people, especially lots of young people, protesting in the streets of U.S. cities during the days after the November election. Seeds of positive change are being sown.

3. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Always be mindful of your current support system. I find myself telling people there are seven billion of us on the planet. We are clearly not meant to go through life, especially challenging times, alone.

Some practices for you:

Radical self- care. This includes all aspects of your physical and emotional wellbeing. You can’t take care of others if you are not nurturing yourself.

* Taking deep breaths regularly. Connect with your body.

* Yoga and stretching

* Meditating

* Spending quiet time in reflection

* Writing in your journal

* Activities and places that make you feel centered and relaxed

* Asking for support when you need it

Write or declare your intentions for this new year. Perhaps have a mantra or a word that captures the essence of what you want your life to be this year.

How do we deal with darkness in our world? We do not give in to the dark. We bring our light. We bring hope and optimism. We bring a vision of a better future and we work towards it. We shine our light brightly everywhere. We show leadership. We stand out and we set an example for others.

Be mindful of your self-talk.

What is life calling you to do or be at this time? Take time to listen. Listen to your heart. Its whisper will call you. Do what you feel called to.

May you be calm. May you stay centered.

Be Calm. Stay Centered

May you have a happy and fulfilling 2017. May this year bring you many gifts and blessings.

warm wishes,

Brenda

The Healing Power Of Horses

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Sometime last Spring I had a vision of visiting a farm and living with some animals. A few weeks later I saw a notice for a horse ranch near Kamloops BC called Gateway 2 Ranch. This is it, I decided and I signed up for a one week retreat in September.

I have limited experience with horses but looking at www.equinisity.com and reading one of the books by owner and retreat leader Liz Mitten Ryan, One with the Herd, I got excited about the opportunity to have some new and wonderful times with the horses there.

I went to this retreat at a juncture in my life. I was looking for a special place to let go of mental clutter and to live more in the present moment. This retreat offered this to me.

Our group consisted of ten people, nine women, one man and I was the only Canadian. Lots of people from the U.S and two Brits. We got along well and meshed as a group.

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The ranch extends over 320 acres of natural forest, rolling hills, lakes, grasslands and underground rivers of crystals.

I loved the expanse and variety of land on this property, how it stretches far to the horizon and holds secrets in its rocks and hills. Each afternoon we went for hikes on various parts of the land. Years ago, the Okanagan and Shuswap peoples lived and roamed on this very land. I found myself more aware of Earth’s energy rising up through me.

It was such a welcome feeling to be out of the city and to let go of technology, news and media for a week at Gateway 2 Ranch. Each morning we spent time in the barn with the horses. Lots of time focusing and meditating. We sat on stools at the edge of the barn. The horses are amazing… they mill around, often meditating or standing still in a group. Then one or two horses might approach you. They breathe slowly, deeply and I found myself breathing in unison with the horse in front of me.

The horses at Gateway 2 are amazing animals. They are considered higher beings and they share their wisdom. Spending time with the herd at Gateway 2 Ranch you might find a deep connection that will surprise you.

This is a herd of about 12 semi-wild Warmblood horses, one Shetland pony, one foal, and a large bull, a big Buddha who is part of the group.

I felt no fear of the horses whatsoever. The horses, having been raised among people, are totally comfortable with people. Not only that, they seem highly sensitive and tuned into people. Everyone in my group reported having healing experiences with the horses.

Message from the book, One With the Herd:

To the People

The story we have to tell is one of peace; we are creatures of peace. Our spirits run freely through time, witness to the history of our species. Horse energy is powerful, magnificent, as is our form. We are here to guide you in the way of spirit, for this is our home. We have no fight with you; we have been your friends through the age the ages. We are not beneath you, except when we carry you on our backs. We are happy to carry you , to that place where we will all stand together in the sun.

– from the Herd

This is a special herd, a privileged herd of horses. They live together as a family, in the wild, yet also loved and doted on. In our world, this is not so common in horse-human relationships. Throughout history horses have been abused, mistreated and preyed upon. Horses carry all of this in their DNA. So this herd stands out. They are raised as a family, with love and respect. They ask us to be open to what they offer, seeking Oneness and truth.

unnamed (4)Each day I had some lovely experiences in the presence of the horses. The first day Epona (horse names are in italics) came up to me as I was sitting on a stool. She breathed on the side of my face, sending a huge shiver down my right side that lingered for several minutes. She seemed to be giving me a healing treatment. The horses milled around. It was quite quiet. One horse peed creating a huge splashing sound. Birds chirped. There were lots of birds. A cat crawled on me and licked my hand. Liz said they were getting to know us. I noticed how much I am used to noise and here I found a lot of quiet and I felt filled with feelings of peace. Pashar rubbed his nose back and forth on my right knee. Did he sense I need healing in that knee? I think so.

unnamed (3)Another day Serene came up and stood very still in front of me, breathing. I began to breathe with her. Crystal stood directly behind the wall at my back. It seemed like Serene was teaching me patience. I was meditating but my mind was wandering. As I continued to meditate I became very calm and the mental clutter floated away. My sense of Serene was that she is strong, still, patient and knowing.

Magic is a beautiful black horse with a white blaze on her face shaped like a heart with an arrow through it. She stepped towards me and breathed with me. Her breath was strong, steady. I felt powerful waves of healing rush through my body and shivers down my side. Tears came to my eyes. We continued to breathe together and she pressed her face against mine very firmly. I put all my trust in Magic. She kept pouring her love and healing into me. First one side of my face, then the other. unnamed (5)At one point she pressed her head onto the top of my head and pressed down like she was grounding me. She kept blowing her breath onto my face, my ear and my neck. I felt totally at One with this horse and felt a circle of unconditional love between us. This went on for a long time. What a gift from this horse. I felt so humble. What can I give to you?, I thought. I felt totally connected to Magic, to love and to inner peace. I had never felt such feelings of Oneness with an animal before. It was profound and unmistakable. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. This was a peak experience. Very profound and hard to put into words.

I stood beside Prima and pressed my cheek onto hers. I stood there for a long time then I spoke to her. “You are a beautiful horse, wise and knowing. May you always feel wild and free.” I kissed her face. What an incredible privilege.

I was so grateful to have such deep experiences of Oneness and Peace with these horses.

To find out more about Gateway 2 Ranch you can look at www.equinisity.com. You will also find several books by Liz Mitten Ryan available.

We are living in turbulent times. Where do we go to find feelings of Oneness, when our everyday experience is to feel separate from each other and even from our inner selves? We need to find places and means to cultivate peace and to be connected in our hearts with each other and with nature.

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And you, dear reader, what oasis or special place do you have to experience peace? What experiences of Oneness and deep connection have you had? Have you had magical experiences with animals? I would love to hear from you.

Warm wishes,

Brenda

Summer Solstice: Welcome the Light!

© 2016 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

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Summer Solstice is upon us: the longest day and shortest night of the year.

This is a big time of transition in the year. Nature is signaling change for us. Summer’s arms are opening wide, ushering in the new season. This is my favourite time of year, with so much sunlight and warmth.

In the past, our ancestors would mark this time with ritual and celebration. In current times we may have lost the deeper meaning of Solstice but many of us sense this time of year signals change. A number of years ago I used to go to a big annual Summer Solstice party in Vancouver where everyone wore white, we celebrated, ate barbecued salmon, danced and partied late. What great memories I hold of those parties!

Summer Solstice is a doorway to the second half of the year. We are already halfway through 2016!

May you embrace the possibilities that Summer holds.

Take a little time to reflect:

what is this year bringing you?
what are you learning?
what do you feel good about?
is there something you want to let go of?

Looking ahead to Summer, ask yourself:

what does Summer hold in store for me?
what do I need?
what do I want to create?
who do I want to spend time with?

I notice at the beginning of Summer I begin thinking of where I want to go and who I want to see. The rhythm of life shifts in the summer. We go on vacations, go to music festivals, spend more time outdoors, get out of some routines, enjoy less structure and often slow our work life down.

As well as activities, Summer offers greater rewards: a deeper time of rest, relaxation and reflection. Many people are feeling these needs. This is a time when you might be able to unplug from your usual patterns. Unplugging allows you to get new perceptions about your life and gives you a calm space to be creative.

It helps to approach the new season with awareness and intention. In doing so, you create more of the life you want.

Focus on what you wish to nurture and develop in yourself over the coming months. Stand at the threshold and ask yourself: What do I want to encourage or enhance in my life?

When you come to the end of Summer, how do you want to be feeling? Refreshed? Energized? Have new perspectives? Taking a little time to answer this question helps you create the best summer for you.

The warmth and beauty of Summer helps bring in expansive feelings. This is a season of possibilities.

May you allow the beautiful energy of Summer to fill your soul and to carry you forward. Share your experiences with someone close to you or write in your journal. I would be happy to hear how this goes for you.

Warm wishes

Brenda

Welcome 2016!

© 2016 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

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Let’s welcome the new year: 2016! The old is passing away and the new is beckoning to us, full of possibilities. The New Year gives us an opportunity to reflect upon where we are on our journey, to review things we have been learning and to identify some things that hold us back or that we need to let go of. In our wisdom may we celebrate all aspects of our lives— the challenges and the opportunities— with gratitude.

The new year is full of possibility. Picture doors of opportunity in front of you. See them opening. Step into this year with courage and purpose!

2016 is calling. What is 2016 asking of you? What does it hold in store?

This may be a time to reconnect or to rekindle your passions and to live the life you were born to live- – a life of joy, abundance, and compassion. Remember this: the world needs your gifts and talents.

We each have the choice to live more consciously and to age wisely. As we do this, we contribute our wisdom not only to those who are currently with us but also to those who are coming after us.

Now I am in my late 60s, I am aware I have fewer years ahead of me than behind me and I savor this time. Somehow the years become more precious as we age. Perhaps this makes me dream and set my intentions more clearly.

Setting your intentions is a powerful way to direct your life. Intention is the driving force that fulfills our needs, whether for health, adventure, new learning, relationships and inner peace.

Some suggested steps:

– Reflect back on 2015. What did the last year bring you? What did you learn? What do you feel good about? What do you need to let go of?
– Get focussed.
– Set your intentions. As you do this, you bring everything into alignment. Take time to get clear in what you want in the coming year. When you take the time to focus on your intentions, you open space that brings them into fruition.

You might ask yourself:

– How do I want to be feeling?
– How do I want to enhance my health and wellbeing and how will I keep my commitments to these?
– What is my support system like right now? Do I have all the support that I need?
– How do I commit to living my life with greater meaning and purpose?

Nurture your intentions each day. Repeat them. Write them. Hold them strongly in your heart and most importantly, take active steps towards your intentions.

One of my intentions this coming year is to connect with people from my past. All those special memories of friends from the past are treasures to savor, and to weave into my current life. If you are someone from my past, I would love to speak with you about the special times we shared. Something I am interested in asking: What did that time contribute to our lives? Please feel free to contact me. I look forward to talking with you.

May your year be blessed with health, joy and fulfillment.

Warmest wishes for 2016,

Brenda

Where Are You Placing Your Attention?

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Honouring All Mothers

© 2015 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

Each year on the second Sunday in May we have a huge celebration for our mothers.  Mother’s Day has become an annual ritual . We take Mom out to lunch, buy her flowers and tell her we love her.

What about the rest of the year?  Do we honour our mothers on those days too?

When I became a mother at the age of 41, I went through a significant transformation. I suddenly saw myself as a part of the billions of women who are mothers.  No one prepared me for this transition. Before I had my daughter I went to pre-natal classes, read books, bought furniture, had baby showers and talked to friends who were already mothers. But no one told me anything about the personal transcendent experience of becoming a mother. I felt completely different and humbled. And I felt a deep and unconditional love for my daughter.

Do we all take our mothers for granted?  Most of us have issues with our own mother, including resentments. But it is always important to pause and be grateful to her for the precious gift of life she gave you among many other reasons to be grateful for.

On Mother’s Day this year, take a little time to thank your own mother for everything she did for you and all she is to you. You can do this whether she is here or not, whether you feel close to her or not.

My own mother is now 92, struggling with dementia as well as broken bones and decreased mobility.  She has courage as she goes through this time. She is coping with the losses of what is most important to her, her mobility and her mind. I often thought my mother was different from other mothers because she is incredibly outgoing, curious and adventurous. She taught me to be independent, to ask questions, have strong values and to go out in the world. I am grateful for all she has done and all the things she has taught me in life.

If you are a mother yourself, may you pause and acknowledge yourself for all you have done for your child (children).  We mothers can be critical, often berating ourselves for not doing things perfectly.

Let us honour all mothers around the world. The mothers in war-torn Syria and Iraq.  The mothers in Nigeria whose daughters have been kidnapped. The mothers of missing and murdered Aboriginal women.  The mothers of black men who have been killed by police officers in the U.S.  The mothers of special needs children.  Mothers, both married and single, who need to work to support their families and have to juggle the loads of responsibilities they have. Mothers who work tirelessly for their families with no pay. The mothers in the Nepal earthquake who have lost family, friends and homes.  And the mothers who have died in Nepal.

Women who are pregnant and having a baby this year: may you have a very healthy and happy baby.  May you cherish the experience of being a mother.

Let us acknowledge all the mothers who came before us, our ancestors who birthed all of us.

Finally let us honour our own precious Mother Earth who is the great mother of all living beings on this planet. May we come to recognize we are not separate from her. We are One.  May we stop mistreating her and come to appreciate her and treat her well.   May we live in harmony together.

Let’s (honour) celebrate all mothers all over the world today and always.

love

Brenda

Conscious Aging

© 2015 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

‘To live the life one has imagined:  that is the sum and purpose of the whole second half of life.‘-James Hollis, author of “Finding Meaning In The Second Half Of Life “

Graceful aging.  Healthy aging.  Growing younger. Audacious aging.  Anti-aging. ’60 is the new 40’. Aging backwards. (I just heard this one recently.) Conscious aging. Conscious eldering.

Are you feeling bombarded or bewildered by all the different messages you are getting about aging?  Are you confused or trying to sort out where you are at in your own life journey?

We are living in an age where we continually get messages about being youthful. We aren’t young anymore. We ask ourselves, “Is life all downhill from here?”

Also, we are now in a time when life expectancy is much longer. We have the technology and resources to have a healthier and longer life as we move into our elder years. Our generation has the privilege of not only living longer but having many more opportunities than our parents did.  We are the first generation who will be aging consciously.

We each experience the aging process individually.  Perhaps what we can all agree on is this:  We are all changing.  I met with a friend for lunch one day and she said,  “Take a good look at me now.  I will have a few more wrinkles in three years.”

Most people in the second half of life are noticing changes in their body and their health.  I am not as resilient as I was 10 or 20 years ago.  I don’t even like to stay out late at night. When I was in my 30s I could go stay up late at a Saturday night party and get up on Sunday and carry on with lots of energy.  Not any more.

This winter I had continual knee pain, followed by back pain.  I have gotten treatment from my chiropractor but I wasn’t able to exercise for a few months.  Now I find myself stiff and sore.  I’ve discovered that yoga classes are very helpful in keeping me flexible both in body and mind. One thing we all need is to keep moving. 

Aging is not just a physical process of changes in your body and your health. You are likely facing additional challenges:  family issues, decisions about retirement and changing perspectives in life.

What is hard for many people to be aware of are the gifts of aging. Our culture is sadly lacking in understanding these gifts.  But we hold wisdom from life experience.  Aging is a natural process, a journey into our elder years when we can savor the life experience we have had and share this with others.

If you feel bombarded by mixed messages about aging, this is something you can do:  Check in with yourself.

Ask yourself some questions:

  • What is true for me today?
  • What challenges am I working through?
  • What am I enjoying at this time?
  • What do I dream about for my future?  Am I looking forward to?
  • Do I have a deeper sense of purpose?

I talk to lots of people who are retired and they say they have many things ‘to keep them busy’.  It sounds like being busy is the ultimate goal for some. There is a big difference between filling time and living one’s precious elderhood with as much purpose and passion as possible.

There are many people leading the current wave of conscious aging and helping others find new purpose and inspiration in the second half of life. One of these people is Ron Pevny, author of a new book: ’Conscious Living Conscious Aging’. Many Baby Boomers are no longer satisfied with the idea that contribution in life ends when they retire.  Ron Pevny presents a new model for positive aging that focuses on the potential for growth, service, fulfillment and spiritual exploration.  He calls his work Conscious Eldering and he leads retreats and workshops in Canada and the U.S. I like the way he opens the possibilities for people from a variety of backgrounds to see they can make a difference in life for others and to see the elder years as a time of growth and deep fulfillment.  I recommend his book.

Ron is leading a one week retreat at Breitenbush Hot Springs in Oregon at the end of June. For further information check his website: www.centerforconsciouseldering.com.

There are so many possibilities for you to consider:

  • becoming more reflective
  • having creative pursuits
  • learning something new
  • writing your memoir
  • volunteering

How you age is a choice.  If you could see yourself in 15 or 20 years, what would you feel satisfied with? What dreams do you want to fulfill?  Most importantly, how do you want to be feeling?

The most important aspect of your own aging is your attitude.  Do you see new possibilities for growth and contribution on the horizon of your older years?  If so, you can have a very fulfilling life as you get older.

If you are needing support with any aspects of aging or life in the second half, please call me and we can talk about ways I can help you. I offer free phone consultations:  604-435-9400.

warm wishes

Brenda

Boomers and Our Aging Parents

© 2013 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author

We are now facing a Longevity Revolution. Only thirty years ago, life expectancy was 71 years for men and 79 for women (StatsCan.) Now, many seniors are living well into their 80s and 90s. The Baby Boom generation is the current ‘sandwich generation’, caring for aging parents as well as facing the needs of our adult children, who may still be dependent on us. This is dramatically changing the picture for modern families. This means that elder parents may need extended care and support as they live longer lives.
This extended lifespan has big implications. Some seniors still enjoy good health and an active life in their 80s, while many others are having health issues, illness, and cognitive decline. Aging can bring with it increased dependency and vulnerability.

If you have aging parents, the lives of everyone in your family may be affected including siblings and grandchildren. Many people are feeling the demands and challenges of trying to meet these needs as well as to find some balance in life.

Here are some of the possible impacts in your family: 

  • Communicating and Decision-Making – This may pose some challenges if there has not been a history of talking together effectively.
  • Geography – Many family members live in different cities or provinces. This poses problems as to who is going to take care of an aging parent who lives far away; as well, how will distant siblings be involved?
  • Emotions – A roller-coaster of emotions is common, including stress, overwhelm, anger, resentment, frustration and depression.
  • Caregiving – The burden of care often falls on the siblings, more commonly the women than the men.
  • Respecting the parent’s needs – Family members need to know and respect the wishes of the elderly parent and to include them as much as possible in decisions and conversations. If dementia is present, this can be a significant challenge.

A number of my clients are caring for an elderly parent. One woman has been taking a few trips a year abroad to care for her 93-year-old mother. She is the sole person who advocates for her mother and meets with the doctors and caregivers onsite; as well she phones long distance and emails between her visits. Although this has been a huge responsibility in this woman’s life, she feels called to do the best she can for her mother.

My own mother is now 90. Last summer she fell and broke her leg, resulting in a hospital stay for the last few months. It is very hard to accept that things will not be the same, as her level of mobility is changing. Everyone in my family is affected by the decline in my mother’s health. She has had an extraordinary life full of adventure and activity and now is facing significant losses.

Looking at your own life, do you have an elderly parent who needs care? Or did you have a parent who died after a lengthy illness and extended caregiving by you or others in the family? What is this experience like for you? Are you able to balance all the demands you are facing?

Some questions to address in your family:

  • What is each person’s role and what are the expectations of family members?
  • Who assists in getting the elderly parent the necessary medical assessments and support?
  • How does your family best have conversations together and address what is needed?
  • Who are the decision-makers and to what extent is the elderly parent part of the process?

It is important for the caregivers to practice self-care, and to avoid burnout. The work of the caregivers can be taken for granted but they need to be included in the process. This includes attention to:

  • identifying what your needs are and being aware of your stress levels
  • being knowledgeable about the aging process, community resources, etc
  • finding best ways of offering and asking for help
  • having a support system and avoiding being isolated

I have touched on just a few issues in this big topic of caring for aging parents. I would like to hear from you, my readers. What are your experiences? Have you had some triumphs or some challenges? Is there something you would like me to address in my newsletter on this or related topics?

Whatever your situation, it is important to practice self-care and get help navigating through the caregiving process. A clinical counselor who specializes in family issues in the second half of life can give you the support you need.

Warm wishes,
Brenda

Being Kinder to Yourself

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As I grow older, I am learning to be kinder to myself.  This is a process that has come upon me through my own life experience.  Like everyone else, I notice all the various messages I am getting about the aging process:  graceful aging, healthy aging, even ‘anti-aging’.  As I experience some of the ups and downs of the aging process, I notice I need to find ways to be gentle with myself and not feel like I need to compare myself to others or to judge how I am going through the aging journey.

Do you sometimes get down on yourself as you notice signs of aging? Do you resist or perhaps deny the aging process? Do you feel badly because you can’t remember someone’s name, or why you walked upstairs into a room? Perhaps you find yourself comparing to others.

How do you take care of yourself and what words do you say when you talk to yourself? These are important questions to think about. It is your attitudes, habits and self-talk that are creating the quality of life you are living.

I am learning to practise being kinder to myself. I find it is so helpful to have a gentle attitude toward myself. I take note of the changes in my body and my health. And then I say, ”It’s alright. Everything is going to be okay.”

Now in my 60s, I notice I am definitely slower to heal from injuries (especially my knee) and less able to do endurance or impact activities. Although I do not have the resilience and stamina I had at age 40, I take stock of what I do have: very good health.  I exercise regularly and watch what I eat. I have supportive people in my life. I especially try to monitor my thoughts.

It’s helpful to watch how you talk about aging.  I read reports that “It’s all downhill from here.” However, that’s not true.  As Baby Boomers we know that as we take care of our health, are physically active and keep our brains alert and sharp, we can enjoy good health as we move into our senior years.

A few months ago I was on a group hike near Squamish. We hiked the perimeter of Brohm Lake and then took a trail up the side of a mountain.  I found myself huffing, puffing and sweating as we scaled a steep hillside to a higher elevation. Up and up we climbed over stones, dirt trails and rocks. “I feel like I’m climbing Mount Everest!”, I called out to the group ahead of me.  Even though I did not hike at the same pace as the younger people in the group, it was a wonderful accomplishment to get to the top and stand together looking out over a valley to the stunning Tantalus mountain range beyond. I did it! I felt grateful for that day, as I drove back into the city.

We are so often hard on ourselves and neglect the simple practice of being kind. Kindness holds a high vibrational energy, and the ripples are felt both within and beyond you.

Life gives us opportunities to practise being kind and more forgiving with ourselves. Recently I was at my gym and noticed there were some new, very flashy elliptical trainers. ‘Oh,’ I thought. ‘I’ll try one of those one.’ It felt great to cycle and even to increase the level of intensity on the machine. However, later that day, my knee hurt. It was telling me: ’Too much. Don’t do that.’  I have had ongoing challenges listening to my knee. I find I am flooded with memories of what I used to be able to do 10 or 15 years ago and I now need to listen carefully and honour the messages from my body. When it says ‘No’, I need to rest a while.  I take a break, and adjust my expectations.

As our physical bodies go through changes, we can become much more aware of our true essence which we hold within us. As you practise being kind to yourself you may be more aware of your wonderful inner qualities and strengths. These do not need to diminish as you age. In fact, they can and do flourish.

Ways to practice being kinder to yourself:

  • speak lovingly to your body and thank it for serving you all these years
  • be conscious of what messages you pay attention to from the media and from other people
  • let go of being so critical of yourself
  • adjust your expectations when your body says ‘No’
  • give thanks for all that you do have

As you practise being kind to yourself, you are strengthening the foundation for all aspects of your health and your life.

Warm wishes,

Brenda