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2013: Opening Doors of Possibility

© 2013 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author



“Sometimes I believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”
                                                                                        -Lewis Carroll

Welcome 2013!  Let’s embrace our new year.

The new year signals change:  fresh opportunities, new goals and a vision of what is possible. In the beginning of the year, you may sense you have the motivation to make some changes or to try something new. No matter what has happened in the past, you can make new choices now. You have the chance to start fresh as you experience doors opening before you. Picture doors of opportunity in front of you. See them opening. As you see a door opening, step through the doorway with enthusiasm and purpose.

We often live with limited views of ourselves and what is possible. This can feel like a dark screen over the lens of our life.  If this were removed, we would see endless possibilities. I think about astronaut Chris Hadfield, the first Canadian to walk in outer space, who is currently orbiting Earth many times each day. The photos of our planet are stunning and when I look at them, I feel inspired and moved. Chris not only stepped out of the box, he flew up into space and is staying there for months. You can see his photos online by clicking on this link or google Chris Hadfield.

In our essence, we are made of energy. We are radiating these qualities each moment: either expansion or contraction. It is up to us how we direct our thoughts and our energy. When we put restrictions on ourselves and the possibilities of our life, we don’t see what can manifest.

Consciously direct your self-talk

Our thoughts and feelings continually create the reality that is our life.  Notice how you are talking to yourself today.  Are you saying: “I can’t do that. I’m not smart enough.  It will never happen.”  Or are you saying: “I see that possibility in my life.  I’m going for it.” Thinking positively is a way to open yourself to new possibilities.

You may feel some of these obstacles:

* being afraid of making mistakes

* lacking energy or support

* worrying about the steps to get there

* leaving your comfort zone

Let this be the year you dare to dream

Start to picture what you want. Identify things you want in your life now.  Is it better health and wellness?  Is it closer relationships?  Is it simplifying your life and letting go of what no longer serves you? Is it traveling? Contributing to your community?

Picture a door in front of you.  It is opening and on the other side are immense possibilities. Make a concrete plan that you will share with another person. Sharing will help you solidify your direction.

Suggestions if you are feeling a little stuck:

* Get out of your routine and do something new

* Drive a new route or go to a new place

* Spend  time in nature, among trees or close to water

* Get the support you need.  Free 20 minute phone consultation with me by calling 604-435-9400.

Notice when you feel happy, content or when you shift to feeling expansive. Write about this in your journal or share with someone close to you.

 “I am where I am because I believe in all possibilities.”

                                                       -Whoopi Goldberg

May 2013 be a year when you step out of limitation and embrace new possibilities.

Warm wishes

Brenda

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To assist you in finding and opening the doors of Possibility in your life, please enjoy a guided audio meditation “Opening Doors of Possibility ” by clicking on this text.

Time for Rest and Reflection

© 2012 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author



The afternoon of life is a time to listen deeply to your heart.
– Carl Jung

We are approaching the winter solstice and the end of our auspicious 2012.  After such a tumultuous year, this coming holiday season offers us an opportunity to rest and to reflect, and to deeply nurture ourselves.

We have all been aware of the significance of 2012. We are sensing we are at the beginning of massive changes and shifts in all areas of life. This is also a time of advancement in our spiritual growth. We are releasing old beliefs, ways of being and the sense that we are separate from each other.  I am noticing many people experiencing crisis or significant shifts in all areas: relationships, health, finances, work, and consciousness. As well, we are witnessing crisis in our world in many realms. These momentous shifts are preparing us for the new age we are entering.

Some questions I am asking myself:

  • What has this year brought me?
  • What have I appreciated most in 2012?
  • In what ways have I grown as a person, or learned something new?
  • Am I living my purpose?

As the days are now shorter and darker, many people feel the impulse to hibernate, to pull into themselves. I like to have my fireplace on, the Christmas lights sparkling and a few candles burning. Then I spend some time writing in my journal. This is a season to be reflective and to notice what is happening.  In order to prepare ourselves for what is in store in the coming year, we need to be deeply grounded, and to find the time and space to be quiet.

The holidays are filled with activity and it is easy to get so busy with “doing” that we neglect our self-care.

We need balance, including time for rest and to contemplate the journey our life is taking. When we don’t take time to nurture ourselves this way, we can end up feeling exhausted, burned out or that something is lacking.  Something is missing when we don’t spend any time at all reflecting on how our life is progressing and tending to our personal needs.

It is very important to take some time to be still and quiet.

* Meditate regularly or have a practice that enhances stillness and silence.

Carve out some time for this. A few minutes a day or an afternoon.   An evening.  These occasions are precious and an investment in your growth and awareness.  In stillness and silence we begin to experience calmness and peace.  This inner peace strengthens us.

*Make sure you get enough exercise and sleep.

Some questions you might contemplate:

  • What practices do you have that bring you rest and reflection?
  • What do you notice when you take time for quiet, with no distractions?
  • What do you need to pay more attention to?

When you spend a little time with these questions, you are fulfilling a need your soul has: to know how your journey is progressing and to set your sights on what is best for you. When you bring things into balance, you may be feeling that your life is on track.

Take time to be quiet and still.  Out of stillness comes deeper knowing and the inner strength that fortifies you for the times ahead.

I wish you a contented and nourishing holiday season.

Warm wishes,

Brenda

Take time to listen to the guided meditation to help you find peace. Click on the title  to start the audio. B-Dineen-Peace_meditation

Embracing the Aging Process

© 2012 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author


The afternoon of life is a time to listen deeply to your heart.
– Carl Jung

Do you find yourself resisting the aging process? Are you fighting to hold on to your youth and perhaps pretending you are not getting older? Living in a youth-obsessed culture makes it difficult for many people to not only accept the aging process, but also to honour it.

How do you experience the aging process?

We are all aging. Our bodies are gradually changing and we are not as resilient as we once were. I had to have knee surgery and now I cannot run or jog. This is a loss.

Most of us, especially Baby Boomers, have been pretty conscientious and have taken care of our health over the years. However, we find we can’t halt the signs of aging. This is a challenge, living in our youth-oriented culture. We are urged to fight the aging process. Products are marketed as “anti-aging.” That’s like marketing “anti-life.” This is resisting what is.

There is overwhelming pressure from the media and advertising to look youthful. Advertising and selling products bring in big profits. There is no immediate monetary gain from wisdom and experience. Yet here’s something to contemplate. Money cannot buy these gifts: wisdom, life experience, perspective, deep insight and knowingness. These are treasures to be cherished.

A challenge we face is to find these inner treasures that we do have and to feel good about ourselves as we notice our outer appearance changes.

How do we talk about aging?

We speak about aging in these terms: a curse, a loss, a burden, a defeat, even something to lie about. Aging is given a bad rap. In traditional cultures, old people are the elders, the carriers of wisdom. They are respected. Unfortunately, we have completely lost this in our culture. This is a deep wound in our culture that is not acknowledged or dealt with.

Aging is not a disease. Aging is a natural process. Our generation can turn the tide of “anti-aging” into the deeper understanding that as we age, we achieve personal wholeness. In this second half of life, we have many gifts to share and life experience to pass on. We definitely have choices about how we are going to be living in this stage of life.

What you need to have a healthy second half of life:

*Eat well and have an exercise program that works best for you. Stay active.

*Cultivate nurturing relationships and friendships.

*Keep your mind sharp by trying something new.

*Meditate or find ways to calm and relax your body and your mind.

*Learn to accept what is happening instead of fighting it.

*Let go of judgment and criticism. You will feel much lighter.

*Bring laughter and joy into your day.

*Maintain a positive sense of yourself.

A study at Yale University found that older people with more positive self-perceptions of aging lived an average of 7.5 years longer than those with less positive self-perceptions of aging, even after other factors were taken into account.

Discover what gives your life meaning:

Why do you like to get up in the morning? What gives you the most energy? When you find the keys to these questions, you can start to embrace this time of life, and discover a purpose in living.

There are many treasures to be found at this time of life. When we were younger, we were so focused externally: education, career, and family.

Now we have the time and space to:
– become more reflective
– appreciate and share our gifts
– have creative pursuits
– commit to lifelong learning

Can you find the inner beauty and gifts that you are yours? Can you feel good about yourself as you notice your outer appearance changes? Perhaps we can all find comfort in knowing there will be many of us in old age. The Baby Boomers comprise by far the largest generation and we will be going into our elder years together. We are a big cohort that can support and encourage each other on this further journey through the second half of life.

Find some peace and contentment exactly where you are right now.
This will be much more fulfilling than purchasing a jar of anti-wrinkle cream.

Please reach out for additional support by calling for a free 20 minute phone consultation with Brenda 604-435-9400.